#0225 'Mom, How Do I Get People to Like Me?'
Charles E. Confer
Charles Confer's current series of curricula for foster families provides a solid foundation for skills building either in a group training format or as a self-instruction program for foster parents.
Training goals include:
* Foster parents will grapple with and come to understand the truth that an individual cannot 'make' another person 'like' them.
* Foster parents will understand and practice foster parent coaching/teaching skills and information that will assist foster children to successfully engage with peers.
* Foster parents will identify and discuss the youth's psychological needs, fulfillment of which will result in the youth's developing positive self-esteem, self-acceptance and self-assurance.
* Foster parents will identify and discuss foster parent coaching/teaching actions and skills which will ensure that the foster home provides a positive learning environment in which the youth can acquire and practice behaviors which lead to developing self-acceptance, self-approval and positive self-esteem.
Several points of content worth special mention: A foster parent cannot 'empower' a youth or teen. The youth must learn methods and behaviors to satisfy his/her psychological needs for power, freedom, fun and love: When the youth learns to meet these needs through responsible behaviors, he/she will develop self-esteem, self-assurance and self-acceptance. Thus, the foster parent's job is to provide an environment in which the youth can learn the skills and behaviors to satisfy these needs. By providing a positive learning environment, the foster parent can help the youth to empower him/herself.
There are a number of generally accepted truths of life which assist individuals to get on more satisfactorily with people. Foster parents can help their foster children to get along with others by teaching these fine points of 'folk wisdom.'
The real problem of 'Mom how can I get people to like me?' is this: If the youth doesn't like him/herself, the chances are that self-esteem and acceptance by others will be lacking. So, the goal for foster parents is to conscientiously coach the youth in ways that the youth can learn to like him/herself.
When a youth learns to successfully fulfill his/her psychological needs, he/she will feel competent, strong and worthwhile to him/herself and others. The youth has no power over others to 'make them like' him/her. To be complete, accepted and successful within the group of peers, the youth has to be competent within him/herself.
A very important component of this training is the presentation and discussion of the various foster parent coaching/teaching skills, attitudes and methods to ensure that the foster home provides a positive learning environment for the youth.
#0225 - Workbook $6.50 Ea. 10+ $5.55
#0226 'Mom, How Do I Get People to Like Me?'
Trainer's Guide $25.00
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